Avoid this fatal relationship mistake in 2024
Ego, Nuqud, Dinero, Geld, Argent, O-kane, Jīnqián, Paisa.
They all mean the same thing in all 8,000 different languages currently spoken on the planet today.
Never has just one word spoken in over 8,000 different “tongues” have so much power over the minds, emotions and fates of men.
This word in some cases is the difference between life and death.
This word is so powerful, that the entire world runs on it.
The word I’m talking about ladies and gentlemen is Money!
Why this long-winded, borderline dramatic introduction for one word you ask?
(P.S. Even if you didn’t ask I’d tell you anyway).
Because people do very “stupid” things for money.
And I want you to know that the reason people do stupid things for money is because of what this word — money — represents.
Money holds so much power because it is a symbol that represents a way of life.
Have enough of it and you can live, dine and explore pleasures far beyond the reach of mere men. Pleasures only reserved for Kings, Queens and the highest echelons of royalty.
If by the sheer chance of fate and good luck you happen to have more than enough money to last you several lifetimes, even the gods will envy the amount of sway you hold among mortals because your power, fame and status will rival their own.
Have little to none of it, however, and you’re doomed to a life of misery, pain and want.
Having said all this, there’s one “stupid” thing people do that is the bone of contention in today’s issue.
That “stupid” thing, is entering romantic relationships because of money.
And here’s why I say entering a relationship with someone for money is a very “stupid” thing to do.
MY TWO CENTS 🧠
My post above gives an excellent summary of my perspective on this matter.
(P.P.S. You can check out my other posts on X and follow me for more relationship wisdom.)
However, here’s an expanded version;
Money in its basest form represents 3 things; power, access and control
This is why the golden rule is,
He who has the gold makes the rules
When you enter a romantic relationship with someone for money it subconsciously does 3 things to you that you may not even be aware of.
First, it takes away your independence. By independence, I mean your ability to rely on your abilities to take care of yourself as a human being and functioning adult. This means you have no autonomy as a person. You’d always be subject to the whims of whoever’s gold you rely on.
Second, it takes away your power. By power, I mean your power to choose. Suppose you rely on someone you’re in a romantic relationship with to give you money for transportation when you want to go out, to give you money to buy food when you want to eat or to give you money for clothes when you want to buy them. In that case, this means that you only go where they want you to go, eat what they want you to eat and wear what they want you to wear.
Because…
He who has the gold makes the rules.
Third, it reduces your self-image.
The combination of all 3 results in the disastrous effect of having a distorted self-image and self-worth.
This is so much unnecessary and absolute power to give to someone,
Because…
Power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely
- Lord Acton
I’m sure some of you reading this might be thinking about some random “gold digger” who enters romantic relationships with others just for their money and successfully controls them via emotional and mental manipulation.
But let me tell you, these people are the exception and not the rule.
Most “sugar babbies” are beholden to the commands of their “sugar daddies”. They have no autonomy or independence.
And once the sugar daddy has sucked all the sugar from them, they then leave them in a broken and dejected state.
So if you’re considering a romantic relationship with someone who — for lack of a better word — has his or her “finances” in order, and you’re not sure if you like them for them, or you like them for the benefits their finances may bring into your life, here’s what I recommend you do.
THE PLAYBOOK 📕
Avoid undue influences in the relationship for the next 90 to 180 days.
Undue influences are things that tend to skew proper and logical decision-making as a result of their effects.
The 2 main undue influences in romantic relationships are sex (yes! sexual intercourse) and money. To avoid these influences, you should;
Pay for your meals when you go out on dates with the person in question. You can do this effectively by only going on dates you can afford comfortably.
Buy your clothes with your money and pay your bills with your money.
And avoid any form of “hanky panky” under the sheets or anywhere you can “hanky panky”
Then prioritise hanging out with them and going out on dates in public places where all you can do is have “safe, non-sexual fun, and talk.
This way, your mind will be clear for you to assess if they meet the personal standards and requirements to be part of your life in an intimate way.
One of those requirements should be an alignment of your core values as a person and your non-negotiables in the relationship.
You should also use the time to figure out if you both genuinely complement each other and if you both have a genuine connection that goes deeper than just physical looks and other shallow forms of intimacy.
