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How Communication Improves Your Sex Life
A satisfying sex life is something that we all desire. The intimacy and connection that comes from physical pleasure is something we all crave. However, society leads us to believe that the key to a satisfying sex life is having sex in exciting new positions from the Kamasutra, having sex in new places, and using sex toys, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
Yes, those things can certainly add some spice to your love life (except the sex toys…those cause more harm than good, but more on that in another blog post)
But they’re not the only ways to improve things. Communication in your relationship is one of the most effective ways of turning your sex life from mundane to extraordinary. And, no, we’re not just talking about the dirty talk (although that can be fun too).
We’re talking about cultivating healthy communication in your relationship to improve your sex life.
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So, why is communication so important when it comes to sex? Well, with better communication comes increased closeness, A.K.A., “the feeling of intimacy”. And, as any relationship and marriage therapist will tell you, increased intimacy between a couple leads to better sex.
One way of creating emotional intimacy is by strengthening your communication skills. Communication is usually thought of as merely talking, but it encompasses a range of behaviours. For example, physical touch can be a form of communication. Touching your partner is a way of letting them know you’re there for them or showing them what you need. Another form of communication is “a sigh” or other non-verbal sounds that let your partner know your feelings without actually using words.
Healthy communication is all about listening, validating and responding to your partner. It’s about understanding that everyone has their unique way of communicating and being open to learning how your partner sounds and chooses to communicate…
