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The Truth About Dead Bedrooms

Chike Oranye
7 min readApr 22, 2023

Today my lovely readers, we explore the concept of D.B’s (A.K.A. dead bedrooms).

I researched and created this blog post so you wouldn’t have to. Let’s go!!!

WHAT IS A DEAD BEDROOM?

A dead bedroom is defined precisely as it sounds. It describes a lack of sexual intercourse between couples in marriage or romantic relationships, A.K.A. sexless marriages and sexless long-term romantic relationships. This, in turn, leads to feelings of sexual and physical frustration, resentment, depression, and unappreciation in the affected party (be it the boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife).

A bedroom is considered dead when a couple have sex less than once a month or just eight (8) times in a year. Sadly, dead bedrooms are almost a common phenomenon across marriages that have hit the seven (7) year mark and above globally.

9 CAUSES OF DEAD BEDROOMS

STRESS: According to multiple studies, this is the leading cause of dead bedrooms globally. The pressure from jobs, kids, paying bills, running a family, recessions and other life transitions can reduce the tendency or appeal to have sex with one’s romantic partner or spouse.

MISMATCHED SEXUAL LIBIDOS: This is the second leading cause of dead bedrooms. In this case, one…

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Chike Oranye
Chike Oranye

Written by Chike Oranye

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